In this episode, Jon and Jimmy discuss more objective questions people can ask sex offenders to guage if they are being forthright and honest. They also discuss the offenders' porn addiction and how the types of pornography sex offenders consume affects their thinking.
In this episode, learn specific tag lines and catch phrases pedophiles will use when they are being insincere. Learn how to understand the language and psychological techniques abusers use to rope others in to their world of deceit. Jimmy and Jon parse a letter written to a church by a predator and demonstrate how he used very specific techniques in his letter.
This is a continuation of a series where we talk about objective criteria to gague what level of risk a known sex offender poses. We often interact with churches and even family members of pedophiles who believe they are broken and "reformed." In this episode, Jimmy and Jon help you distinguish language patterns so you will know the difference between psycho-babble and truth. Pedophiles are some of the best language artists out there. Learn the most common concrete sayings that will roll off their lips so that you can help others root out decption.
In this 3rd episode in a series called "When a Sex Offender Comes to Church," we will explore more objective criteria so that we can be better equipped at guaging how big a risk someone poses to our children. We will make a shift to subjective criteria and explain what techniques should be used to intervene when we see someone who poses a real risk to our vulnerable members.
What do we do when a sex offender comes to church? How do we determine the risk he or she poses to children? What are the right questions to ask and how do we determine whether the offender is repentant or not? We offer objective questions you should ask the offenders in this series.
Registered sex offenders are in our churches. Sometimes church leaders aren't aware. Many times, church leaders know about it but choose not to inform the church that a sex offender is in their midst. Even more child predators who have never been caught are in our churches. But for the sex offenders who are registered, how do we discern who the high risk offenders are and what do we do about it? We are here to answer these questions. Because we are dealing with a level of sophistication that is unmatched for any other crime, we have broken this out into a series. Our hope is to arm you, the audience, with the right information to bring to church leaders so that we can build a community of protectors.
We've heard the phrase, "I don't want to believe that so and so is capable of abusing children." Oftentimes, that desire to not believe becomes the new reality for the unabused. Abusers will tap this faulty belief system and use it to their advantage. Even if an abuser is caught, abuse is often explained away and the victim is left exposed, hurt, and vulnerable. We explain how this happens and how the church must respond to this poisonous response.
How do we identify who the real wolves are? In this episode, Jimmy and Jon explore the traits of a real wolf and how they so easily gain access to innocent people to devour. How does the church respond to them and how can we do better at fighting them off?
It's so, so difficult for survivors to ever tell anyone that they were sexually abused. In this episode, Jimmy and Jon explore the internal reasons why survivors feel like they can't tell or won't be believed. Jimmy shares some of his story from when he turned his father in and explains how we need to cultivate an environment where survivors know that they can tell. And it's not up to the survivors to make that happen. They should not feel like they have to be the ones to lead the way.
Survivors deal with a very real dilemma--do they "out" their abuser or remain silent? Next week we'll talk about the reasons survivors remain silent and the internal struggles they face. But this episode deals specifically with another dilemma--should survivors sound the warning bells to others or remain silent? Often times survivors want to warn others but are ignored, ridiculed, or told to remain silent when they do try to tell. We've got to shift the current culture in a much better direction. Listen as co-founders Jimmy Hinton and Jon Uhler discuss their thoughts.